Tuesday, September 24, 2013

ADDRESSING MY DRESSES

^^ Just some of the "Rachel" pile^^

Anyone who knows me will be able to tell you that I am a (reformed) dress collector. The reason I call it "collecting" is because I have accumulated more dresses than I have been able to wear and, as such, my dresses have become akin to collectible Star Wars figurines, their practical purposes completely unrealised. It took me a long time to learn that unless there was a specific occasion in mind, it would be unlikely that the dress would ever see the light of day. It was always likely that another dress would come along that would render any other dress unfashionable and undesirable. And wearing the same dress twice? A rare event.

Since I moved in with James almost three years ago, I had to consolidate my clothing otherwise it would never fit into the wardrobe. Into a couple of large suitcases went all the things I didn't see myself wearing for a while. I did tell myself, however, that when we got a bigger closet, they'd be hung up again, waiting their turn to be worn (addicts often live in denial). We now have that bigger closet but many of those dresses are completely redundant now. Corporate attire serves no purpose now; itty bitty bandage dresses I apologise for and promise never to do again! In fact, these days I'm less of a 2-speeder (super casual/super dressy) and have embraced that wonderful in-between of blouses, shorts, denim and jackets which gives me greater fashion freedom by way of increased outfit permutations. Dresses only is kind of limiting, especially if you're like me and haven't mastered the art of accessorising.

Yesterday, I decided I'd make a Charity pile and a Rachel pile. Rachel is my little sister who loves nothing more than my closet clean-outs, which I'll never understand as she's so much more fashionable than me. As I was sorting and sifting, it was incredible how many forgotten memories came flooding back. I picked up one dress and remembered the frightening moment a violent stranger grabbed me by the back of the neck while I was out one night. Then there was the dress I wore the night that James and I first met. I can't wait to tell that story. Many dresses I loved so much I bought in every colour; others I bought and wondered why almost as soon as I got home. There were dresses I wore and loved, only to get too fat for. Now they fit but I cringe at the thought of wearing them again!

I'm ready to let them all go now. I haven't had a need for them for the last couple of years so I'm sure I won't need them going forward. That is, unless I have a daughter and my old threads become covetable "vintage" items. Somehow I just don't see the bandage dress making that kind of comeback.

How about you? Is your closet more like a museum? Do you hang onto things for far too long? Buy things and never find the right occasion for them?

7 comments:

  1. I LOVE dresses and although I have other things in my wardrobe it's mainly the dresses that I wear. That said, I had too many that didn't fit or were just daggy so I had a BIG winter dress clean out which sure made it easier to get dressed each day. Now to do the same for summer which will be harder as there are a lot of dresses I love but just don't fit.

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    1. I hear you re: making it easier to get dressed. I can never find what I am looking for in all my drawers and enough is enough. Tonight I am culling them too.
      There's no use keeping stuff that doesn't fit. I used to hang on and say "if I lose weight..." but that is just depressing so I bid them farewell!

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  2. Ohhhhhh I am a dress collector to a T! I actually have a pile in my living room, waiting to be given away. I used to buy dresses not because I had anywhere to wear them but because I knew I'd regret not buying them. It's ridiculous because I always rationalise my purchases before I get anything (where can I wear this, how many times do I need to wear it before it's got a good cost per wear amount etc) but dresses? Nothing else matters! haha x

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    1. Yes!!! I know what you mean re: regretting not buying. That's always the way with me. I actually have walked away a couple of times and yep, still regret not buying them!

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  3. Dresses, I love them. I do have a lot of them hanging in my closet. And yes, I don't wear all of them, but.. it's love, can't give them away! :)
    Kisses
    Tabea

    http://wolkedrei.blogspot.de/

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    1. Yes, it IS love. I already miss one I gave away haha

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  4. Your post is beautifully written. I know it's just clothes, but I sense a loving sentiment throughout the post that you associate your closet with. I have just embarked upon a cull myself, but haven't quite yet decided on what I'd do with the clothes. I might bring them to my cousins who live overseas as I have no sister here.

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